As pediatric occupational therapists (OTs), we’ve seen firsthand how thoughtful planning can transform an overwhelming holiday gathering into a joyful and inclusive experience for everyone. For children and adults who are neurodivergent, the sensory, social, and dietary complexities of traditional celebrations can present unique challenges. With a little forethought, hosts can create a more inclusive holiday celebration with a welcoming environment that fosters connection and enjoyment for all guests – regardless of their abilities or needs.

Understanding Neurodivergence and Inclusivity

Neurodivergence encompasses conditions such as autism spectrum disorder (ASD), ADHD, sensory processing disorders, and more. These differences often come with unique needs related to sensory sensitivities, social interactions, and communication. An inclusive holiday celebration means recognizing these differences and taking proactive steps to accommodate them, ensuring all guests feels valued and comfortable.

Research underscores the importance of inclusivity. According to a 2021 study in Frontiers in Psychology (Anderson et al., 2021), inclusive social environments significantly improve the mental health and well-being of neurodivergent individuals, particularly children. When families and communities embrace inclusivity, it fosters a sense of belonging and reduces feelings of isolation.

Planning an Inclusive Holiday Celebration

1. Sensory-Friendly Spaces

Holidays often bring loud music, bright lights, and bustling crowds, which can be overwhelming for individuals with sensory sensitivities. To accommodate:

• Create a Quiet Zone: Designate a room or area as a sensory retreat where guests can take a break if they feel overstimulated. Include soft lighting, noise-canceling headphones, weighted blankets, or calming activities like coloring books or sensory toys.
• Adjust Lighting and Sound: Use dimmable lights and play soft, calming music at a low volume. Avoid flickering lights or decorations with intense patterns.

2. Food and Dietary Considerations

Food-related challenges, including allergies, feeding issues, or restricted diets, are common among neurodivergent children. To ensure everyone can safely and comfortably enjoy the meal:

• Ask About Dietary Needs in Advance: When inviting guests, inquire about allergies, food sensitivities, or specific dietary requirements. Providing a variety of options ensures everyone has something they can enjoy.
• Label Foods Clearly: If you know one or more of your guests has allergies, make it easy by indicating ingredients and potential allergens, such as nuts, dairy, or gluten. This can reduce anxiety for parents and individuals managing food restrictions.
• Include Familiar Foods: Some children with sensory sensitivities or feeding disorders may prefer simple, familiar foods. Offering plain options just in case like bread, crackers, or plain vegetables can make them feel included. And don’t be offended if a child prefers to stick to what they know. The truth is that holiday gatherings in and of itself can be somewhat novel – possibly overwhelming – experiences. Even though they’re surrounded by friends and family, it may not be the best time and place for a child to get adventurous with what’s on their plate.

3. Social and Behavioral Support

Social interactions during holiday gatherings can be challenging for individuals with anxiety, social skill differences, or behavioral needs. To support positive experiences:

• Prepare Guests in Advance: Share the schedule of activities and who will be attending. This can help parents create visual schedules or social stories that can be used to help their children know what to expect. (Our Akron OTs help with this all the time!)
• Facilitate Social Opportunities: Set up structured activities like board games, crafts, or cookie decorating to encourage interaction in a low-pressure setting.
• Model and Encourage Empathy: Talk to other guests, especially neurotypical children, about being patient and inclusive. Sometimes simple reminders about sharing and taking turns can go a long way.

Communication is Key

One of the simplest yet most effective strategies for hosting an inclusive event is open communication. Reach out to families ahead of time to learn about specific needs and preferences. Questions to ask might include:

• Are there any sensory accommodations that would help your child feel comfortable?
• Does your child or family have any dietary restrictions or allergies?
• Are there particular activities or settings your child enjoys or finds challenging?

When families feel heard and supported, they’re more likely to relax and enjoy the event.

Taking steps to create an inclusive holiday celebration benefits everyone. For neurodivergent guests, it provides a safe and enjoyable environment where they can fully participate. For hosts and other attendees, inclusivity fosters empathy, understanding, and deeper connections.

Examples of Inclusive Activities

Inclusive activities are a great way to bring everyone together while accommodating a range of needs and preferences. Some ideas to consider:

• Sensory-Friendly Crafts: Offer activities like making ornaments with textured materials, which allow guests to engage at their comfort level.
• Movement-Based Games: Games like charades or a holiday-themed scavenger hunt can provide an outlet for energy and appeal to kids who struggle with sitting still for extended periods.
• Quiet Activities: Set up a table with puzzles, books, or coloring supplies for those who prefer low-stimulation activities.

Tips for Avoiding Common Pitfalls

1. Avoid Overcrowding: Limit the number of guests or stagger arrival times to reduce noise and chaos.
2. Minimize Unexpected Changes: It can’t always be helped, but try to stick to the planned schedule as much as possible to avoid surprises.
3. Be Flexible: Understand that not every child will engage in every activity—and that’s okay. Provide options and respect individual preferences.
4. Be Prepared for Meltdowns: Have a plan in place to support guests who become overwhelmed, such as directing them to the quiet zone or offering a calming activity.

Inclusive holiday celebrations are more than just a kind gesture—they’re a meaningful way to ensure that every guest feels valued and connected. By considering sensory, dietary, and social needs, hosts can create a welcoming environment that brings joy to everyone, regardless of their abilities.

As you plan your next holiday gathering, remember that inclusivity is not about perfection. It’s really about effort and empathy. A little planning and communication can go a long way in making the season brighter for all. Together, you can make this holiday season truly inclusive and memorable.

For more information about pediatric occupational therapy in Akron, Contact Us Online or call our office (330) 748-4807. Our educational services and multidisciplinary therapy are available in Brecksville, Broadview Heights, Cleveland, Akron and surrounding communities.

Additional Resources:

Supporting a Neurodivergent Family Member During the Holidays, PAVE

More Blog Entries:

Encouraging Independence: How Akron OT Teaches Life Skills for Children With Disabilities, Nov. 4, 2024, Akron Occupational Therapy Blog